Participation Awards

Another post from John Galt

We have gone too far.  Our group-hug mentality is causing a social mess with our kids.  It is apparent in the popularity of Facebook, the “need” for instant messaging, and how people drive.  Just so you know, and before it is lost in the following, everything you do or say is not a pearl.  And, everyone doesn’t need to plug into your train of thought.  You are not as interesting as you think.  You are not as good a driver as you believe.  Maybe your mom lied when she said you were her favorite or you were the best kid on the team.  Moms have said those things for years—it’s in the mom’s handbook—but in the past, you didn’t get a participation trophy just for showing up.  To get a trophy, you had to excel, and yes, that means when measured against others, you were better than they were.

Now, the parenting handbooks have gone crazy with cautions that your self-esteem will be forever damaged unless we tout your every action.  If you merely show up for school every day, you get an award.  Now, you don’t have to participate in class or turn in your homework; you only have to be present in the school building for the majority of the day.  If you show up, you’re a member of the team, no tryouts and no cuts.  If you are a member of a team, you get a participation award.  Not that you work hard in practice, participate in the game, conduct yourself in a sportsman-like manner or score, just that you are present.  How low have we set the bar to be rewarded?  Shouldn’t we expect more?

Maybe this practice of rewarding “I was present, thus I contributed”, has permeated our social practices.  Some people only participate if there is a physical or financial reward.  What happened to doing something for the good of others, or just feeling good because you helped someone—more so, what if you did a good deed and didn’t tell anyone?  If you haven’t done a good deed for a while, try it.  The warm feeling inside will last much longer than the $20 gift certificate.

Some people act as though they are autonomous when driving.  I’m thinking this is a fall out of the entitlement mentality that comes from thinking everything you do is a gem.  Well, I was in traffic with you yesterday and you really cannot text and drive safely, no matter how many times your mom told you that you were the best at everything.  And, when you are in a hurry and drive manically, you put me at risk.  Manically is not a compliment, just in case you are unfamiliar with criticism. 

So, I offer some criticism in hopes that you reassess your abilities, your interactions with the world and your self-image.  Average is not a good thing to be.  Normal is a vanilla-flavored, beige-walls average.  Average says you are so similar to everyone else as to be indistinguishable.  If they (your mom, your coach, your teacher) are telling you that you are outstanding, are they also telling everyone else the same?  Hate for anyone to feel left out in the group-hug-everyone-is-satisfied-world.  But, there are truly outstanding people.  They tend to be intelligent, curious, courteous, kind, mannered, gracious, trustworthy, and moral and they walk a different path than the rest.  Notice that in none of the words would this person think they were the center of the universe.  They are also the people that do the right thing even when no one is watching and don’t spend the day talking or Facebooking about it.

A culture that rewards average, sufficient, and just enough doesn’t provoke us to aspire to more.  We each think that we are a winner (hey, I got a trophy), yet collectively, we are the “normal” without any outstanding character.  So, question if you really are a good driver when you are texting or is that constant honking because you keep crossing the line.  Question if you should be more involved in your community than just being a member with a common address.  Step up and step out to find your true potential.  You may not get an award, but as I read recently, “The only thing a man can have on this earth and take with him when he goes is a good name.”  How good is your name?  Or are you just one of the faceless, nameless in the crowd?

BSA Turmoil

Because I am a scoutmaster, I have been asked by a lot of folks about the recent change in the policy of the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) concerning the inclusion of gay youth.  This change allows openly gay youth to join Scouting units, but still prevents openly gay adults from serving as Scout leaders. 

While some groups applaud the change, others say it doesn’t go far enough.  And others say it went too far.  I personally believe that BSA changed the policy because of losses of donors and financial support, and by making this change, hope to regain some of that support.  While I can understand why it happened, it appears to me that BSA caved to public pressure.  It’s hard to teach a Scout to do the right thing in spite of peer pressure when the national organization does the exact opposite.  But, that’s a subject for another post.

BSA has changed the policy; now, what will be the impact of this change?  Days after the policy change, my local newspaper carried the headline BE PREPARED FOR BOY SCOUTS IN TURMOIL.  A pastor of a church in Birmingham is quoted as predicting an exodus of “a significant number of participants and evangelical church-based organizations. “  That is a disturbing prediction given that approximately 70% of Cub Scout Packs and Boy Scout Troops are sponsored by churches.  Unfortunately, the exodus is already occurring.

At least three churches in the Birmingham area have already stated that they will no longer sponsor troops or packs after the end of this year.  Southern Baptist leaders, at its upcoming convention, will vote on a nonbinding resolution urging congregations to cut ties with BSA.  Southern Baptist churches sponsor nearly 4,000 Scout units, so cutting those ties will be a huge blow to Scouting. 

Not only will Scouting lose sponsors, it will also lose members.  Many parents are pulling their kids out of Scouting and enrolling them in other programs such as Royal Ambassadors, Christian Brigade, Pioneer Clubs, and AWANA.  Many of the churches that are breaking ties with BSA have stated that they will affiliate with and focus their efforts on these programs.

While these churches are free to cut their ties with BSA, I believe they are missing out on a great opportunity, an opportunity to make lemonade with the lemons dealt by the policy change.  The General Council on United Methodist Men estimates that in every troop sponsored by a United Methodist Church, 25% of the boys come from families that attend a United Methodist Church, 25% come from families that attend church of another denomination, and the rest come from families that do not attend church.  It is this last group where the churches can have a huge influence.

Jesus Christ gave Christians a great commission. “Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:   Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you. “ (Mat 28:19-20).  If a church sponsors a Scout troop and selects men and women of good moral character with a belief in Christ, then they have an opportunity to draw families not otherwise associated with a church into a position where the family can hear the teachings of Christ.  Is that not what Christ wants us to do?  When a church refuses to sponsor a troop because of its position on gay youth, are we not reinforcing the stereotype of church hypocrisy?

Many churches don’t want to be viewed as endorsing the gay lifestyle and that is understandable.  But, by disassociating from BSA, churches will miss a great opportunity to provide positive moral adult role models to kids that may be lost, confused, or simply seeking attention and miss an opportunity to spread His teachings to those who may not otherwise hear them.

After Christ called Matthew to be one of his disciples, he ate a meal at Matthew’s house.  When the Pharisees complained about Christ eating with “publicans and sinners”, Christ responded, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice.” For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners."( Mat 9:12-13)

Christ did not commission us to spread His Word to only those with the same lifestyle, same skin color, or same language.  He commissioned us to spread His teachings to all nations.  Instead of cutting ties with BSA, churches should use the policy change to show that Christians truly love the sinner and hate the sin, that we are all sinners and fallen short of the glory of God, but through Christ we can all be redeemed.  Let’s not lose this opportunity to spread His word, to make Scouting available in our churches to provide Christ-like examples for kids that would otherwise have no positive role models

Capitulate?

Sixty-nine years ago this week, Allied forces invaded Nazi-occupied France.  Now commonly known as D-Day, the Normandy Invasion involved over 160,000 troops in both an airborne and amphibious assault on the French coast.  General Eisenhower, in his Letter to Allied Forces, outlined the purpose of the invasion.  He said, “…you will bring about the destruction of the German war machine, the elimination of Nazi tyranny over the oppressed peoples of Europe, and security for ourselves in a free world.”

By the end of the day, June 6^th, 1944, over 10,000 had been killed or wounded.  That same day, President Roosevelt, in a radio address to the country, asked the nation to join him in prayer.  He said, “Men's souls will be shaken with the violences of war. For these men are lately drawn from the ways of peace. They fight not for the lust of conquest. They fight to end conquest. They fight to liberate. They fight to let justice arise, and tolerance and goodwill among all Thy people. They yearn but for the end of battle, for their return to the haven of home. Some will never return. Embrace these, Father, and receive them, Thy heroic servants, into Thy kingdom.”

As we acknowledge those who fought and honor those who made the ultimate sacrifice to liberate Western Europe of the tyranny of the Nazis, I can’t help but to compare the words of President Roosevelt with those of President Obama.

Obama, in a recent speech, spoke of ending the existing Authorization to Use Military Force “to determine how we can continue to fight terrorism without keeping America on a perpetual wartime footing.”  He further stated, “Our systematic effort to dismantle terrorist organizations must continue.  But this war, like all wars, must end.  That’s what history advises.  That’s what our democracy demands.”

Ending war is a great thing.  I don’t want any more of our servicemen and women wounded or killed.  I want them all to come home safely.  But the thing is, war doesn’t end until one side or the other capitulates.

And it’s pretty evident that the terrorists haven’t surrendered.  The attack on the US Diplomatic Mission in Benghazi, Libya, the bombing attack during the Boston Marathon and the death of a British soldier, hacked to death outside the Royal Artillery Barracks in London are recent examples of terrorist attacks in the nightly news.  However, car bombings, suicide bombings, rocket attacks and other terrorist attacks occur weekly around the world.  A US Embassy guard was killed in Ankara, Turkey, earlier this year by a suicide bomber and the Pakistani Taliban suicide bomber claimed ten lives near the US Consulate in Pakistan, in March.  Several of the terrorist attacks and many that were foiled have links to the Taliban or al-Qaeda.

Make no mistake, there are people and organizations that resent what we have, resent our freedoms, and resent our way of life.  They are willing to wage war against us, to attack and die to make us surrender our freedom and dignity or wipe us off the face of the Earth.  Our president should not give them any indication that we are willing to back down, that our government’s policy is to appease, negotiate, or capitulate.  I think Winston Churchill said it best when he said, “You ask, What is our policy? I will say; ‘It is to wage war, by sea, land and air, with all our might and with all the strength that God can give us: to wage war against a monstrous tyranny, never surpassed in the dark lamentable catalogue of human crime. That is our policy.’ You ask, What is our aim? I can answer with one word: Victory—victory at all costs, victory in spite of all terror, victory however long and hard the road may be; for without victory there is no survival.”

Ben Stein, in a recent television commentary said, “Peace, while the other side is still attacking, is not peace. It is surrender.”  Let the President, your Senators, and your Congressmen know that you aren’t willing to surrender.  Surrender is a sign of weakness and even perceived weakness tends to be a magnet for bullies.  Terrorists are bullies.  War needn’t be fought on the battlefield, but we should be willing to take the battle to our enemies, wherever they may be. 

They should fear our potential.  Admiral Isoroku Yamamato, architect of the attack on Pearl Harbor, supposedly said after the attack, “I fear all we have done is to awaken a sleeping giant and fill him with a terrible resolve.” We, as a country, must be resolved to fight these bullies and our leaders, starting with the President, must project strength and determination to prosecute war against those who would do us harm in spite of the hardships. To do otherwise will only encourage more attacks.  

Regardless of the strategy employed, continue to support those servicemen and women who keep this country safe for democracy.  They are and will always be a critical element to our war on terrorism.